I need advice

[Komodо]

Im 18, she is 19. I love her. She keeps telling me she needs time and I can’t hold it anymore, because I love her. I need help. Short story.

 

[Deleted member 469419]

Aw man, that's a really short romantic history. I don't know, I'm 16 lol so I'm probably don't understand how this actually work, gonna give my advice anyways...

I don't know, if she need time, just give her time and wait till she can answer you, or else... fully declare your feelings (if you haven't do it yet) tell her that you love her but don't tell her that you can't wait because then it might be worse even... Idk

Love things are complicated man

 

[Komodо]

Aw man, that's a really short romantic history. I don't know, I'm 16 lol so I'm probably don't understand how this actually work, gonna give my advice anyways...

I don't know, if she need time, just give her time and wait till she can answer you, or else... fully declare your feelings (if you haven't do it yet) tell her that you love her but don't tell her that you can't wait because then it might be worse even... Idk

Love things are complicated man

Already told her in a poem. Im sleeping with her as we speak (seperated beds ofc). But I just don’t know what to do. I can’t wait, it hurts.

 

[Deleted member 469419]

Already told her in a poem. Im sleeping with her as we speak (seperated beds ofc). But I just don’t know what to do. I can’t wait, it hurts.

Oof, that's a really complicated situation dude...

Why don't try to take her to a museum, or just go to cinemas and watch romantic movies...

Just pass time with her...
Way more than now.

 

[Komodо]

Oof, that's a really complicated situation dude...

Why don't try to take her to a museum, or just go to cinemas and watch romantic movies...

Just pass time with her...
Way more than now.

I already went: picknicking, horseriding, on holiday, sailing, playing boardgames, shopping. But it seems to be useless

 

[Deleted member 469419]

I already went: picknicking, horseriding, on holiday, sailing, playing boardgames, shopping. But it seems to be useless

Oh, damn it :'v

Do you know what she do really like? If don't, you have to know.

For example, if she really love horses, take her to see the horses. I've been thinking on something really romantic dude, why don't for example take her to a restaurant or a special place and try it again? I don't know like ask for marriage but not the same idk if you get me haha

If it doesn't work or you've already tried it, then I'm afraid that you just have to give her time... Sorry dude

 

[Frez]

man nothing you can do

 

[TheZigbot9000]

This is the one thing I’ll never be able to help anyone with as I am terribly shy when talking to girls on a heart to heart level due to my many failed attempts on the past but let me just try here:

I’d try looking for signs, little things she does around you that shows just for a brief moment that she feels the same way you feel. Could be the way she looks at you, her body language, the way she speaks or laugh around you, things like that. Once you start picking up on these hints more and more then it’s time to put all your cards on the table and tell her how you really feel about her. This is all the info I can really give you about this topic as I’m real inexperienced in this field.

 

[TheSweetSuitMan]

The best thing you can do is tell her how you feel, what is bothering you etc. She might react negatively on it, but at least that way you don't need to 'waste' your energy on something that is never going to happen. Continuing in this state isn't good for your mental health and will probably eventually lead to nothing anyway.

 

[Technosword]

Im 18, she is 19. I love her. She keeps telling me she needs time and I can’t hold it anymore, because I love her. I need help. Short story.

Been in a relationship for one year, and I have one piece of advice for you. Don’t rush it, only ask her out when you feel ready for both results. Best of luck!

 

[Jiivan]

If she needs time, then, if I was you, I would give her more time. You don't have to stress or get too much excited about her. Just give her the time she needs and then, whenever she is ready, you can tell her everything you want.

 

[Queen Ualala]

are you sure you love her? At our age we dont really understand our feelings well, so labelling feelings as “love” “like” kinda like” will only do you harm, at least that’s my philosophy.

You’ve given us 0 details also so dunno how to help you at all. But...

Dont go ask on reddit or anywhere like that, yikes thats the worst place for advice.

 

[Levi_the_pro]

Nice guys always finish last they zeggen ze he. Je ging srs paardrijden broer ik heb srs respect voor. Maar voor advies ik zou vragen voor duidelijkheid en zeggen dat je niet voor altijd kan wachten zegt ze nogsteeds van dat ze geen antwoord heeft dan zou ik doorgaan met me leven en het idee van een relatie met haar achtermelaten want ik geloof in liefde op het eerste gezicht maar als ik jou was zou ik advies vragen aan een meid je zus of een vriendin ofzo. Veel succes ermee gap

 

[Queen Ualala]

moving on is probably the best thing to do ig

 

[Simply]

Not sure my dude. Having only had negative experience with this sort of thing (specifically the "I need time" excuse), the one thing I can say for sure is that you should not be overbearing. Being really pushy will only tire her. I know you struggle to hold back, but I feel like it's better to wait for now, so that you have better chances she'll end up with you, rather than getting it off your chest now but risking scaring her off.
You're trying to play the long run if I am correct.

So just take it easy, repress your feelings a bit (I know this isn't easy for everyone, I just have a lot of practice lmao) and give her some space while still being close and friendly, hinting at what you really want.
With time, she'll decide. Now, what that decision may be, I don't know. Whatever it is though, it shouldn't define how you move further.

You have my discord, if you want anything else, message me ¯\_(ツ)_/¯

 

[Skqrrt]

Give her a little bit of space that’s what she need for now and if u can’t tell her and talk about it with each other because that’s the most important thing in a relation ship.

 

[𝖜𝓲𝓲ʞєŋɖ]

Already told her in a poem. Im sleeping with her as we speak (seperated beds ofc). But I just don’t know what to do. I can’t wait, it hurts.

Just like a good christian lmao

 

[Queen Ualala]

maybe you should go to a sprawling field and re-enact the Can You Feel The Love Tonight scene from the lion king

 

[zAmeer]

You should give her a little bit of space/time.

 

[Ferrcho]

Keep insisting on her, you must meet her and talk about what you think of her. And then you can tell each other your thoughts about each other. You better do this because if she doesn't want you or is interested in someone else, she's going to keep passing you by, and you're going to keep wasting your time. So I think you should meet with her.

(I've given you my opinion, I try to help you as much as possible).