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Discussion in 'Media' started by YounB, Feb 23, 2015.

  1. YounB

    YounB Mod Staff Member Moderator

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    Within the past two years of secondary school, I have been bullied day in ans day out by people who are older than me, I have tried to talk to many people (people including; @sophha @PizzaFace132 @matthewcf01 @sealgoesowowow @PinkStr3ak and others), I have followed their advice, which I must say I think them with all my heart with, but it just doesn't work, especially when they're 1-2-3 years older than me.

    I need some tips to try and endure through it, because on the Internet I seem very energetic, but real life I am a shy person who barely talks. I cannot take bullying anymore, a couple of times I felt like taking myself away for the sake of others, and to show what bullying can lead to. I cannot take it, my year leader does nothing but sit on his lazy bum drinking coffee, my parents help, arrange meeting with the year leader, but he still takes no action. I have consulted OFSTED (school government) and they were convinced by the school that they don't get bullied and serious consequences follow.

    The types of things I have been called; "Paki", "Rapist", "ISIS member", "Paki Control", "pervert", "a waste of time/space", "not worth", "f*cking worthless to society", "kill yourself", "jump off a cliff", "suck your dead nan". Although I have gotten masses amounts of support, I just cannot take it. This is why I talk very formally in forums. I talk like this because it's influencing me in such a bad way, I just cannot be trusted.
     
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    YounB Mod Staff Member Moderator

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    Tell a responsable adult (family,teachers etc.)
    #NoMoreBullying
    ;)
     
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    I did mention; the teachers do nothif, my parents make meetings, were they talk but still do nothing.
     
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    tell them your b00ty is bigger than their life so bye
     
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    This story is really sad, and kinda made me tear up. I'd say go to your HeadOfYear, explaining your situation, if he carries on, without help. Maybe a possible move off school? If you don't want to move school, because moving school comes new education, and new people to be around. If they carry on bullying you, don't respond, let them get tried of making fun of you because of your race, so what if we're all different, the world would be boring if we all where the same. If you don't react to the bulling the bullies wont react back to you.
    Also getting in touch with your parents should help. Making meetings with the school is fine, but may take awhile.

    Just try to keep your head up, and focus on school plus your well being. I understand it may be hard, as you still have a couple of years left before you leave school. So try and make the most of it, while your there.
     
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    I'm going to take this in a serious manner, so try ignoring those people. If you can't, and they keep on bothering you all of the time, then you're going to have to make them stop. Whether it's with words or physically (I don't want to condone the physical way, but if you really need to, then do it)

    I don't really know how to help you, but that was my best shot. I hope you can persevere through your tough situation, Younis. :)
     
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    I cannot focus on anything when all I focus on is actually not living, when all I focus on if I'm gonna get any sleep tonight, and instead cry out my pain.
     
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    I do use physical violence, although my year leader DOESNT condone it, I rt DONT care. I do what I want to defend myself, and my parents back me up.
     
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    Wow...I really don't know then. Maybe you could move to a different city...
     
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    Damn, this breaks my heart.
     
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    My parents can't exactly afford that, focusing on my brother & my nans breast & lung cancer operations.
    </3
     
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    :/ it really pisses me off how some people go as far as saying mean, racist remarks to bring others down.

    I truly hope that you find your way out of your situatoon..
     
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    Situation**
     
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    Thanks bro. :)
     
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    You're welcome. :)
     
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    Ok, This is something I don't like seeing. especially if it's one of my friends. I'm going to start off with 1 thing. You are, Who you are. No matter what anyone says About you. they don't know you. They are just trying to bring you down. because they think it will say something about YOU but it won't. in reality, It says something about them. Just because you are from a different race (Asia,Iraq,Israel,etc) Does NOT give them a excuse to say racist bullsh** About you That's NOT true. You're NOT a paki, or ISIS member, or pervert, or Rapist. you are YOU. Next time they bully you, try to stick up for yourself bro. Just stare at them and say "Don't you have anything else to do rather than pick on someone" MY way of dealing with these type of things are 1. Laughing it off and making jokes to piss them off when they talk crap about me. 2. Beat them. You're NOT worthless you have a lot of people who love you. And care for you. I had a great depression once too younis and still kind of do. but I'm getting through it and i hope you can get through with the problems, you have. ~javid <3 if you need to talk to me PM me. You'll get through it bud trust me.
     
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    My heart... ༼ つ ಥ_ಥ ༽つ
     
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    I hate to hear about this as even though I have never been bullied AT SCHOOL (out of school kinda) I know a lot about the topic. Here are some tips for you.
    Here is a link to a website= http://www.tolerance.org/activity/bullying-tips-students Ok now on to the tips
    1. Stand up for what is right.
    2. If they are alone they will be weaker and not as aggressive most of the time.
    3. Tell a teacher.
    4. Do not hesitate to use physical violence
    5. If you are walking with some friends of yours they will not be as aggressive
    6. Try your best to ignore the bullies
    I hope some of these help you and that this issue gets settled soon. If you have any questions you can just ask me! ~Nico
     
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    The current school that I attend... the students there are exactly as you explained. I was once bullied each and everyday, until i decided to prove a point. I don't exactly get bullied often anymore, due to the fact that I am a quiet person, but I see other students that attend my school go through the same process I, and many others such as yourself, went through. I would always try and confront those being bullied and just... have a good conversation with them, comforting them, usually to free them from that horrible minded state of being bullied. Often times, often.. times.... people do not understand the dangers of bullying others and what it can lead to. About a year in the past, some students my age and older (not exactly sure how old they were) decided they wanted to pick on me for fun I assume, and it really agitated me. I couldn't think straight. Constantly thinking horrible thoughts and what I could do to myself or even them. The day after I thought of an idea to show those who are taking bullying as entertainment how destructive to others lives it can be. I asked the head of my school if he could arrange a certain time for every student to get together, giving me the opportunity to show them a video I found about bullying. (). Who knew something so small could make a difference, not just for oneself, but for others as well.

    In your case I suggest one thing. Contact someone who has the ability to help you. Someone with the wisdom to answer your questions.
     
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